When we see the words humility and service together, it is easy to think immediately of the humility of Jesus in serving humanity (Mark 10:45) and of the humility his followers are called to show in serving others (Galatians 5:13). But there is another side to the relationship between humility and service in that it often takes humility to be served.
When the New Testament tells us that “the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve” (Mark 10:45), it does not mean that Jesus was never served. We know he attended meals in the homes of others where he was served by the hosts (Luke 10:40–42; etc.), we have the story of the woman who washed his feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair in an extreme act of service (Luke 7:36-50), and Mark’s Gospel specifically tells us that a number of individuals “followed Jesus and cared for his needs” (Mark 15:41). In the same way, the apostle Paul – who served countless people throughout his ministry – referred to the deaconess Phoebe as someone who “has been helpful to many, and especially to me” (Romans 16:1-2 NLT).
But it is easy to forget – or never to really learn – that just as it takes humility to serve others, it can also take humility to be served. For a number of reasons, the human mind often resists being served and helped. A clear biblical example of this is found in the story we all know of Peter’s interaction with Jesus at the Last Supper:
Jesus … poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, are you going to wash my feet?” Jesus replied, “You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand.” “No,” said Peter, “you shall never wash my feet.” Jesus answered, “Unless I wash you, you have no part with me.” “Then, Lord,” Simon Peter replied, “not just my feet but my hands and my head as well!” (John 13:3–9).
Here, we see that Peter initially declined being served by his Teacher, and in so doing almost rejected one of the greatest lessons his Teacher could ever give him, as well as the simple act of service that Jesus offered him. Like Peter, although our initial reaction to being served might be negative, we need to humbly and gladly realize that we should accept service being offered for our good. And we need to be willing to do this in many areas of life. Consider just a few examples:
We need humility to be served in sickness, injury, and in other situations where we cannot help ourselves. The apostle James tells us the sick should call for the help of elders who would anoint and pray for them (James 5:14–15).
We need humility to be served when people offer us personal advice, suggestions, or guidance. The example of Moses accepting the advice of his father-in-law regarding a matter in which Moses had far more experience (Exodus 18:13–24) is a clear one that we should understand in the context of Moses’ great humility (Numbers 12:3).
We need humility to allow ourselves to be served by God who came to serve and who works to save us. We should never be like the people of Jesus’ hometown of Nazareth who did not accept him in their pride (Luke 5:22) and, as a result, were not helped as they could have been (Mark 6:5).
The truth is, in our relationships with other people, there is a balance between serving and being served, supporting the needs of others and being supported in our own needs (Luke 4:38–39). We should always remember that we are called not only to serve others, but sometimes to be served also.
