Moving Ahead by Stopping More Often

Moving Ahead by Stopping More Often

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You know the feeling. You are about to do or say something, or you pause in a chain of thought, when you suddenly tell yourself that something is not right, that it may not be good to continue with the thought, word or action.

There is nothing mystical about it, but this moment of hesitation, this quiet voice of self-restraint is something that everyone experiences at some point, just as the apostle Paul wrote that it was something that affected Christians and pagans alike (Romans 2:14-15).

We may call this our conscience or use some other term. Some say it is God speaking to them, others that it is just the result of learned social behavior. In the Middle Ages many people thought it was an angel whispering in their ear. Albert Einstein called it an “inner voice” and others have called it an “inner light.” But no matter what we call it, or where we feel it comes from, it is an established fact of human psychology. We are not talking about hearing voices in one’s head –  just a feeling or awareness that some action or response isn’t good or right. It’s like an internal warning system that is suddenly sounding in our minds. The problem, of course, exists when we turn down the volume and stop listening to that alarm. Typically, before we act in error, our conscience warns us to stop. If we choose to ignore its warning, or begin to think up rationalizations why we need not heed this feeling, the alarm will turn off and the urging of our conscience subsides – only to return later to condemn us if we go ahead with behavior we knew was not right.

The apostle James wrote about this progression between the awareness of something wrong and the results of  tuning out that awareness:  “but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death” (James 1:14-15). The beginning of this chain is the still small voice that, if rejected, temporarily disappears. The amazing thing is that this is something we all understand, yet something that we so often don’t act upon. Yet the battle for good habits and right living is almost always fought at this point – at the very beginning of  the trajectory. If we ignore the restraining call and proceed regardless, we invariably end up, as James affirms, in sin.

As a result, it’s possible that one of the greatest things we can do in overcoming wrong and growing in doing what is right in our lives is to train ourselves to listen to that voice and immediately act on its guidance. To listen and stop immediately has been called, in theology, the obsta principiis – the determination to “resist the beginnings,” because, as we have seen, that’s where the real battle is always fought at the moment the alarm sounds.  Again, there is nothing mystical about this, it’s simply a matter of acting immediately on what we know is right. But the key lies in understanding that every time we ignore the inner voice of restraint and go ahead with what we wish to do, say or think, we actually move further away from where we really want to go in life. Every time we stop at the first “sound” of that alarm we move further toward our real goals. We need to train ourselves to listen for that inner alarm, learn to recognize it and to stop in our tracks. Counter-intuitive as it might seem physically, if we want to move forward further and faster spiritually, we need to stop more often.

Job’s Friends

They’re the Biblical characters we “love to hate” – the friends who said more unfriendly things than they should have done, the friends God reproved for what they said. Yet were they all bad?  This week, on the Tactical Living page, we reproduce a short article by Lenny Caccio on exactly this topic.  Lenny makes an excellent case that we should look at Job’s friends again and that they were taught a lesson from which we can all learn.   Lenny’s article also will form a great introduction for another one we have planned for the near future. The two articles should dovetail perfectly, so don’t miss Lenny’s take on “Job’s Friends” and be on the lookout for a sequel on this same topic.

Before You Ask

You know how a compass works. The floating needle or direction arrow points toward the earth’s magnetic pole.   You also know what happens if the compass comes close to a local magnetic source – the direction arrow gets pulled away from its proper orientation and will not work properly until it is freed from the nearby influence.  

Each of us lives with a spiritual moral “compass”  we have developed which, if guided by God, points us in His direction, but sooner or later – and usually sooner – our spiritual compass  gets pulled away from true by the physical influences that surround us.  At that point we must reset  the compass by freeing ourselves from the negative physical influences or, knowingly or not, we are headed in the wrong direction.

That “reset” would seem to be the exact purpose of the beginning of the model prayer outline that we call “The Lord’s Prayer.”  Jesus taught that before making our requests to God we should  begin by praying “Our Father which are in heaven, hallowed be your name “ (Matthew 6:9).  These simple words, if expanded and prayed with sincere thought, reset our spiritual compasses and get us pointing  in the right  direction again.  It is as we pray thoughtfully, concentrating  on what God is, His nature, and His relationship with us that that we align and prepare ourselves for the requests we are about to make.

It’s all too easy to forget or skimp on this aspect of prayer, especially when our minds are crowded by our own needs and the needs of others, but it is to the degree that we do first align ourselves that we are better able to see things from the perspective God wants us to have.  Without  this realignment we eventually find ourselves asking for the wrong things in the wrong ways for the wrong reasons.

So, consider the importance of the opening thoughts of the Lord’s Prayer before asking for specific requests.  Jesus’ words help us in showing that alignment should always precede asking, and resetting should always precede requesting.